Monday September 08, 2014

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Wednesday August 20, 2014

fratboysegs:

my favorite tweet at the moment

fratboysegs:

my favorite tweet at the moment

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Wednesday August 13, 2014

sesamestreet:

Coming soon to Sesame Street: Frank Underwolf. 

sesamestreet:

Coming soon to Sesame Street: Frank Underwolf. 

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Suicide and the media

I read a Matt Walsh post titled, “Robin Williams didn’t die from a disease, he died from his choice.” I’m not going to link to it here, because it’s click bait and I hate that guy. But he basically claims that depression is caused by lack of spirituality and refusal to experience joy, and suggests that depressed people should just magically find these things to feel better.

His comments about how the cure for depression is spirituality and “joy” are absurd. It’s true, people who are deeply religious are statistically less likely to commit suicide, but there are many reasons for this. Spiritual people are more likely to be morally opposed to suicide. They are more likely to have strong support and to be optimistic. But spirituality is not something that a deeply depressed person can just suddenly “find.” To say that becoming spiritual will fix your suicidal thoughts is assigning false correlation. Spirituality doesn’t cure suicidal ideation; it’s more likely that the things that make you spiritual also make you less prone to consider suicide.

Showing up at church or trying to tell yourself to be more positive are not cures for depression and certainly not for suicidal ideation. Like Williams, many suicidal people are surrounded by family and friends and colleagues who love them and want to help them, and it’s still not enough.

Changing the thought processes of a suicidal person is possible, but it takes time and work and help from a professional. For people who wish to do this in a way that utilizes spiritual teachings, there are pastoral counselors. But to insist that simply becoming more spiritual will magically cure suicidal thoughts is a profound oversimplification and also shows a deep misunderstanding of mental illness. There is no magic “spiritual” or “joyful” switch that we can flip. If there was, no one would be depressed or suicidal.

But.

He also makes a point about the rhetoric surrounding Williams’ death that is a valid one. I was disturbed by comments about how “he’s free,” “he’s at peace,” etc. The pictures of Aladdin hugging Genie and saying, “You’re free”? That is not the message we should be sending about suicide.

Did you know that overall rates of suicide go up significantly after a prominent public figure commits suicide? Especially among young people. There is a glorification of this terrible tragedy in the media, and people present suicide as a path to peace.

While I do believe that depressed people are ill, I do not see suicide as a path to peace and freedom. There is nothing peaceful or freeing about suicide. Suicide compounds sadness and leaves a trail of devastation that will poison the people who love you. Williams is gone, and his family and friends are left to pick up the pieces; to wonder if they could have stopped this tragedy by loving him more; to wonder why he would do something so devastating and permanent and final. There is no peace or freedom in suicide. There is only destruction.

To present suicide as an escape from the pain of depression is to tell millions of depressed, desperate, impressionable young people that they, too, can be free of the misery of depression if they commit suicide. That’s irresponsible.

Instead, we should be focusing on alternatives: therapy and medication and the hard work required to get through it and, yes, spirituality, but only when it’s combined with the help of a professionally trained counselor.

We should be discussing the devastating legacy that people who commit suicide leave behind. The loved ones of people who commit suicide are far more likely to commit suicide themselves, and likely to fall into deep depression and experience complicated grief.

I do not pretend to know an easy answer. Clawing out of the depths of depression is hard. I have been there myself. We should be open about how hard it is so that people who are going through it don’t mistakenly believe that they’re doing it wrong or that it’s impossible just because it’s not easy. People struggling with depression need to know what successful treatment looks like and see and hear from people who have survived it.

It’s not easy, but as long as you are waking up each morning, there is hope that you will find the treatment that works for you. There is something or someone out there who can help you. Suicide robs you of that possibility.

It’s not possible to just “choose joy” when you are depressed, but I do believe you can choose hope. As Winston Churchill said, “When you’re going through hell, keep going.” Believe that you are loved, you are valued, and eventually things will get better. Don’t leave the people you love to sort through the destruction of your final act of desperation. Call someone and tell them. Give them a chance to help you find hope again. Keep going.



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Tuesday August 12, 2014

My family has always been private about our time spent together. It was our way of keeping one thing that was ours, with a man we shared with an entire world. But now that’s gone, and I feel stripped bare. My last day with him was his birthday, and I will be forever grateful that my brothers and I got to spend that time alone with him, sharing gifts and laughter. He was always warm, even in his darkest moments. While I’ll never, ever understand how he could be loved so deeply and not find it in his heart to stay, there’s minor comfort in knowing our grief and loss, in some small way, is shared with millions. It doesn’t help the pain, but at least it’s a burden countless others now know we carry, and so many have offered to help lighten the load. Thank you for that.

To those he touched who are sending kind words, know that one of his favorite things in the world was to make you all laugh. As for those who are sending negativity, know that some small, giggling part of him is sending a flock of pigeons to your house to poop on your car. Right after you’ve had it washed. After all, he loved to laugh too…

Dad was, is and always will be one of the kindest, most generous, gentlest souls I’ve ever known, and while there are few things I know for certain right now, one of them is that not just my world, but the entire world is forever a little darker, less colorful and less full of laughter in his absence. We’ll just have to work twice as hard to fill it back up again.

—My only statement. My brothers’ are also online. Thank you for all your kindness, and goodbye for awhile guys. xo (via zeldawilliams)

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Monday August 11, 2014

“I know a lot of creative people and perhaps by correlation I know a lot of people who struggle with depression. They have told me (and they’ve told the world) how depression sits there, implacable, and drains the color out of the world until no success or joy matters. I believe them, and it becomes increasingly evident that no matter who you are or what you’ve achieved, that depression is a good liar and can make you believe none of it matters.
 
I know and love too many people with depression to believe that it’s something that’s shameful to talk about or to acknowledge. I want them alive and I want them here with us. If you have depression I want you alive and here with us. Don’t let the moment take you. Don’t be afraid to get help. The people who love you want you here. Believe it.”

John Scalzi

No matter what problems you are dealing with, we want to help you find a reason to keep living. By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you’ll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7.

(via wilwheaton)

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“Man goes to doctor. Says he’s depressed, life is harsh and cruel. Says he feels all alone in threatening world. Doctor says, ‘Treatment is simple. The great clown Pagliacci is in town. Go see him. That should pick you up.’ Man bursts into tears. ‘But doctor,’ he says, ‘I am Pagliacci.’”

—Rorschach, “Watchmen”



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Sunday August 10, 2014

This is actually impressive.

This is actually impressive.

(Source: pleatedjeans)

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Saturday August 09, 2014

englishprof:

Spotted this bumper sticker: “I’m so local I’m here.”

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